As a mother, the approach of Mother’s Day can bring forth a myriad of emotions. While it’s a time to celebrate the joys of motherhood and the profound bond we share with our children, it can also be a period marked by introspection and reflection. For many mothers, this day serves as a poignant reminder of the complexities inherent in the journey of motherhood, including the profound grief that may accompany it. Whether stemming from the loss of a child, shattered expectations of motherhood, the challenges of single parenting, struggles with conception, the absence of one’s own mother, or any other multitude of reasons, Mother’s Day has the power to evoke a plethora of difficult emotions.

One of the most profound experiences of grief related to motherhood is the loss of a child. Whether through miscarriage, stillbirth, or the death of a child at any age, the pain of losing a child can be devastating and enduring. Mother’s Day can serve as a poignant reminder of the child who should be there to celebrate with us, but whose absence leaves an unmistakable void in our hearts.

In addition to the grief of losing a child, many women also carry the weight of grief from their own childhoods. For some, this may involve grappling with painful memories of neglect, abuse, or unmet needs. Mother’s Day can stir up complicated feelings as we navigate the juxtaposition of honoring our own mothers while also acknowledging the wounds they may have inflicted or the ways in which they fell short of our needs.

Furthermore, the grief of unmet expectations and shattered dreams can cast a shadow over Mother’s Day celebrations. Society often bombards us with images of idealized motherhood, perpetuating unrealistic standards that can leave many feeling inadequate or disappointed. Whether we’re mourning the loss of the mother-daughter relationship we never had or grieving the dreams we had for our own children that have yet to materialize, Mother’s Day can amplify these feelings of grief and longing.

It’s crucial to recognize that it’s okay to feel a mix of emotions on Mother’s Day. Grief is not a sign of weakness but rather a testament to the depth of our love and the significance of what has been lost. Instead of suppressing or denying these feelings, it’s important to give ourselves permission to grieve and to seek support from loved ones or mental health professionals if needed. Say to yourself today:

• I am a Mother who feels grief and joy today
• I allow all the emotions, I am not a robot
• Feeling emotions does not make me a bad mom
• I am capable of holding joy and pain

As we approach Mother’s Day weekend, let’s strive to create space for the full range of emotions that come with motherhood and grief. Let’s honor the mothers who are no longer with us, the children we’ve lost, and the parts of ourselves that ache with longing and unfulfilled desires. And let’s remember that even in the midst of grief, there is room for healing, connection, and the possibility of finding meaning and joy in unexpected places. Honoring grief allows us to authentically express our emotions, fostering deeper connections with others who may share similar experiences. Rather than isolating ourselves, embracing our grief invites empathy and understanding from those around us, strengthening our bonds and providing a sense of communal support. In these moments, we discover that joy can coexist with sorrow, and that even amidst the darkness, there are rays of light illuminating the path toward healing and hope.

If you find yourself in need of additional support during this time, remember that reaching out is a sign of strength and courage. In addition to connecting with friends or family, engaging in self-care activities, or joining online support groups, consider reaching out to Embody + Mind Collective for professional guidance and counseling. Our compassionate team is here to provide a safe space for you to explore your feelings, gain insight, and navigate through your journey of healing. You don’t have to face your challenges alone—let us support you in finding the peace and resilience you deserve.

Wishing you all ease this weekend and always,

Tesa